THE POWER OF UNATTACHMENT
Though it may sound easy to do, becoming unattached to something can take a profound effort, especially if it is an old or familiar attachment. Attachments can be deep rooted, stretching all the way back to your childhood, making it difficult to become unattached to. HOW THE MIND BECOMES ATTACHED: The mind becomes attached to things we focus on. The subjects we put emotional emphasis on become stuck in our mind’s eye, and, depending on what the subject is, it can become haunting and overwhelming at times. Emotions pretty much seal the deal when it comes to the subconscious, so it is paramount to live in a way that encourages emotional awareness and control.
WORKING ON CONTROLLING EMOTIONS
Our emotions are how we express ourselves daily. However, this can become an issue when our negative emotions become our prominent expression. Our emotions have a subtle and physical effect on our bodies and minds. Learning to interact with life while keeping your emotions in check can seem impossible at times. Asking yourself why you’re so emotional about a subject or situation can help with shedding light on what it is that you’re actually attached to. Ask yourself: is this something worth being attached to? Does this have any effect on the present moment? Is the attachment worth the energy being used to focused on it?
PROPER BREATHING PRACTICES
Proper breathing does wonders for defusing our emotions. Practices like belly breathing or meditation that focus on you doing nothing but closing your eyes and just listening to yourself breathing can help you start to become more aware of your breathing, making you a more relaxed individual over time. Being aware of the tension in your diaphragm is important as well when it comes to remaining calm. A good way to release tension in your diaphragm is to exhale while completely relaxing your torso and stomach.
HONESTY WITH YOURSELF
There may be limiting circumstances keeping you from being completely honest with those around you externally. However, to get to the root of your attachment and become detached, you must be completely honest with yourself about why you are attached. It may be insecurity or fear or laziness or all of the above. When it comes to your mind, you can’t fix a problem that you don’t have. In other words, without properly identifying the underlying cause of the attachment, you are bound to remain burdened with the attachment.
ENCOURAGING CHANGE
What you are exposed to daily as far as your eyes and ears are concerned contributes to or causes attachments. Once you hear or see something it can’t be unheard or unseen. Your response and opinion to that information will determine how you process it mentally. So, keeping a rational, positive perspective will do wonders for keeping your subconscious from considering you to be attached to whatever your senses are perceiving. Living in a world where you can feast your eyes on just about anything, it is important to be aware of what influences you are inviting into your mind. Becoming aware of what your mind is repeating daily or hung up on will give you a general idea of how the invited influence is affecting you.
Encouraging change to your mind is not an overnight process. It takes determination and consistency, with patience for the process. Most of us don’t take the time to ask ourselves what is really on our mind, do we actually agree with it, or is it rational? Taking daily thought inventory can expose the opposing thoughts you don’t agree with. Affirmations that oppose the thought you don’t agree with is one way to imprint the subconscious over time. Once the subconscious is imprinted, change takes place within the mind. The subconscious is constantly being imprinted daily, even while you sleep. It is important to influence the subconscious in a way that brings out the best you to make a concrete change.
SELF CARE
Taking care of yourself must be your top priority when it comes to your mind. After all, no one in your external life is in there with you, so it is up to you to take care of yourself mentally. Becoming aware of things that trigger you and learning to navigate them is important when it comes to taking care of yourself. Setting healthy external boundaries is a big part of self-care. The mind is influenced by the external whether we like it or not so being aware of how your mind is processing the contact with the external is a must. Avoiding what negatively impacts your mental health and triggers you is something you’ll have to do for yourself. Those outside of your mind may not be aware that they are the cause of mental discomfort for you, so it is your job to navigate every situation in a way that is best for you mentally and will not end in you becoming attached.
This was not written by a mental health professional. If you’re having mental struggles that are too much to handle, a professional should be consulted as they are trained to navigate such situations.
